LOVE

Are You Confused About Being Angry with the One You Love?
Do You Want to Take the Fear Out of Being Close?

Mary and John's story is familiar.

"i hate you -- get out of my life!" she said when he finally arrived. she was furious about his coming home two hours late to a cold dinner on the table. the candles had burned out, and she ate alone. this was not the first time he stood her up. you'd think she would learn! (You'd think he would learn!)

she loved him so much she was enraged, and told him she wanted a divorce and for him to leave and never come back! obviously to john, mary no longer loved him, so he left, hurt and upset, and spent the night elsewhere. mary was even more hurt from his staying away all night.

Of course, she loved him very much. She understood that but how could she love him and hate him at the same time? she wondered, and he wondered, and with no clear answer they drifted apart.

she didn't understand that love is more than a feeling of pleasure. love is also an emotional investment. mary's anger meant that john was very important to her. otherwise she wouldn't care at all. anger is an inevitable feeling in any relationship but you have to know how to use the energy to turn upsets into opportunities.

the truth is, many people are confused about how to have a close relationship that works.. and no wonder there are thousands of families out there that model for their kids how not to be loving with their husband or wife. they may want to know the "Secret of loving relationships" but all they can do is the best they learned from their own parents about how to get along with others.

Love Means Treating Others Well

How to have harmonious relationships is not a mystery. The first meaning of love has to do with how you treat the person you care about. Creating a close, loving relationship is not actually so difficult to understand! How to do it can be learned. In fact, it has to be learned by everyone who knows how to sanctify their relationship rather than pollute it.

• Anyone can do it and there is no need to sit at the feet of a "guru," spend thousands on training workshops or give up and settle for doing without the love you want.
• It all comes down to the simple, basic rules of listening, understanding, and empathizing with what is important to your loved one. Once you understand how treating others in loving ways works, your relationship cannot fail because of you.
  
  

Love Means Pleasure

When couples treat each other well, they delight in each other, and love means pleasure, deep emotional enjoyment of each other

• Sexual pleasure is only that, and does not create emotional intimacy. You don't have to settle for temporary enjoyment as all you can have. You can go beyond to find the emotional satisfaction that you've always wanted.
• Don't waste time thinking sex is the answer. Learn from what others know that acceptance and affirmation of oneself and others creates the emotional delight that can be expressed with sex.

The experts who understand what works have one thing in common. they know that couples who succeed have the same problems as couples who fail. the difference is in how they deal with their problems when they are not enjoying each other.

Here is a manual that tells you exactly what others do to get the positive results that you want in your own relationship. You don't have to figure it all out on your own from scratch.

You have a description of what really works and what doesn't when it comes to close, emotionally satisfying, loving relationships